Inspo Music of the Week: "Real Friends" by Camila Cabello
BY SAMANTHA LOSURDO
Music is a universal language. One that is interpreted differently from person to person. What does music mean to you? Think about it; a simple beat with heart twisting, honest lyrics can change your mood through the snap of a finger.
In an effort to make your week brighter, here at Blended Magazine, we will be sharing a new song each week. This series will be positively thought provoking in hopes of getting you, the readers, to not only think about these specific songs in perhaps a new way, but also to give you a new perspective on life. So, get your source of music ready, plugged your headphones in, and open your mind.
This week's song is "Real Friends" by Camila Cabello.
"Been feelin' so alone in every crowded room
Can't help but feel like something's wrong, yeah
'Cause the place I'm livin' in just doesn't feel like home"
To grow as a person, we are told to step outside our comfort zones, challenge ourselves, create new surroundings, meet new people, and experience new things. These things are what will contribute to figuring out who we are. The uncomfortableness we experience will help us determine what we like and what we don’t, and dipping our toes into new waters will give us more chances to try things we normally wouldn’t.
Is there a line that determines when you are going too far? Is there anyway to tell when whatever you are doing is just really not for you?
"...Been feelin’ so alone in every crowded room..."
Loneliness. One of the worst feelings in the world. It is one of those things that knock on your door without even calling you to tell you it was coming for a visit. Some probably figure if they are with a group of people, it simply cannot be possible to feel alone. There are people all around you, right? Take New York City for example, which is one of the most densely populated cities in the world. Each and every turn you take, there are groups of people to greet you. The streets are packed with hundreds of humans who are off doing their own things, living their own lives. It is one of the most densely populated cities in the world, yet it is also extremely lonely.
New Yorkers are their own type of breed; they are independent and easily adaptable. They are quick with everything they do -- in and out of offices, Starbucks cafes, quick visits to stores, and hopping onto different subways. As quick as they are physically, they are also very fast mentally. Their minds are always moving to the next best thing or their next big idea. To some, this may cause them to feel frazzled or crazed, which could be a big contributor to loneliness –– you may feel like you are completely on your own. To live in New York, you must be comfortable with being alone a lot, and doing your own thing.
That is something I have learned all too well. We expect college to be full of rooms that you immediately feel warm from just by entering, mostly because of the amount of body heat in the small space. While some experience that, others experience the opposite. They have friends but it doesn’t fulfill the feeling of having someone there for you. There could be hundreds of thousands of people in a room and you may still feel as though you’re the only one there. There are countless things that can contribute to why you feel alone, such as feeling as though you do not fit in, or that you’re just on different wavelengths than the people around you.
"...Can't help but feel like something's wrong, yeah..."
We can rarely ever help the way we are feeling. There are only two things we can truly control in terms of ourselves -- our actions and our words. When people question how it is possible for you to feel alone in a place where there are numerous amounts of people, do not feel the need to explain yourself to them, especially if you do not know where to begin. We experience feelings we don't always understand entirely, and that’s okay. Sometimes, it is best to say nothing and take the time to reflect, rather than act out.
The better you know yourself, the better you will be able to determine whether or not it is nerves, or truly a bad situation. As good as it feels to make others happy with what we choose in life, it feels better doing things for yourself every once in a while. Work on being able to focus on yourself and how you feel. Gain a sense of self by becoming more familiar with who you are, which will happen as you grow more in time.
"...'Cause the place I'm livin' in just doesn't feel like home..."
They say that home is where the heart is, and this is one of those things that is different for everyone. To some, home may be where their friends are, or maybe it is their favorite hangout spot. Home can be their bedroom, their safe haven where they are free to do as they please. Personally, home is where my family is –– where my loved ones are, and where the ones that support me are. Over time as we grow older and older, we begin to find different things and different people that will help us establish new homes, whether it be new relationships or new places that you may be forced to make feel home. It becomes a place where you feel at ease to be yourself and where you are content.
From these lyrics, one should be able to comprehend that the feeling of loneliness does not come in measurements of who is around you. We feel things we don’t initially understand sometimes, all we know is that we feel a certain way deep within us. There is no way to stop a certain sensation that has overcome us. If it is a sense that is false, one that is negative, find ways to change it, because we need change to grow. We need new experiences to grow. We need new perspectives and outlooks to grow. But, we also need to know our own limits, and what our own boundaries are, in order to help with understanding ourselves even more. When we are in a place that does not feel welcoming or like home, we won’t be able to be our best selves.
Lead Image Credit: Camila Cabello / Instagram